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Dealing with Questions

A lot of us worry about a lot of things at the same moment.

  •  “What do my friends think of me?”
  •  “How is my exam gonna be like? Easy? Difficult?”
  •  “Should I attend the lecture, or rather go see a movie?”
  • “How do I dress up for the evening? What if he rejects me?”


There’s nothing wrong about asking all these questions. It’s human nature to want the best out of every situation, be it:

  • Being seen as a nice person, or
  • Getting good marks in an exam, or
  • Deciding between possible tradeoffs, or
  • Not losing that someone special.


But the problem comes when, in asking all these questions, you overlook simple ideas! There’s high possibility these questions make you anxious, and thus, you are not able to make the best out of a given situation.

Consider the following answers to the above questions:

  • They are still my good friends, so I must be a nice person!
  • However it may be, I know I’m well prepared. I’m gonna give my best, and leave the rest!
  • I’m not in a mood to attend a lecture right now. A movie would be a good break, and I can then get back on track!
  • If he is the kind who judges someone on the basis of attire, I better start looking for someone else!


See? It’s just a different line of thinking and reasoning! The last set of answers clearly reflect a person who is:

  • Optimistic
  • Contended with his life
  • Can tell what is better for him at a given moment.


And so I say, why not try?

Try being, even if just for one day, a person who:

  • is contended with his life, and
  • gets mostly positive ideas in his or her mind, and
  • puts on a smiling face in every situation.


You will stop bothering about petty questions, and will see changes in attitudes of people towards you. This is mostly because you have decided you’re not gonna let external stimuli affect you. When you control your inner self, only then can you control your outer self, that is, your behaviour in different situations.

So the next time you’re faced with a difficult question, you know what to do. You may not get all the answers, but I’m sure doing this will make you feel better about yourself.
And, oh yes, isn’t that what you really want?


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